First, enjoy the pictures of the Stay-Puft Marshmallow baby! Anna wanted to play outside today so we bundled up and headed for the back yard. As you can see, both Anna and Phoebe had a great time!
Second, you may notice the scratches on Phoebe's face. We're starting to see renewed signs of grieving. She's not inconsolable by any means, but we can see periods of time where she definitely seems confused or upset. And not in the give-me-my-bottle-right-now way. One of the first 'stress' activities that I noticed when we met in Vietnam was the scratching and it's returned, although not as frequently as it used to be done. The shirt sucking also made an appearance today. And she's returned to the 'safety checks' - waking frequently during naps to make sure I'm still here. She's sleeping fine at night and we see lots of giggles and smiles when we're playing, but the signs of grieving are there. Thank goodness we were expecting it - we knew the babymoon wouldn't last forever! Attachment doesn't happen overnight and Phoebe spent 9 months with those sweet, loving nannies in Vietnam. It's so sad to see her hurting, but with a lot of love and consistency we'll get her through it!
4 comments:
Phoebe is absolutely adorable! And yes, you will get through it! Especially because you recognize it for what it is! Cecilia did face scratching, too. We put socks on her hands for a while at night... and then one day, after a few weeks, she stopped and never did it again.
SO, so cute!! As you know, grief is a food thing in this instance as it means she can form bonds. It may be painful to watch now, but it will end soon. All of you will make it through.
We just completed our ALP attachment class last night, so it hit home to see that. It is great to see that you seem to be handling it well and she just looks so dang cute and happy!!!
She is just beautiful. It must be very difficult to see your baby sad and confused, but you are doing a great job meeting her needs!
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